I love my kids, more than life. I would do anything for them, and I do. But honestly, there comes a time, when a mom needs a little space.
This past weekend was Mother’s Day, and Friday my co-worker asked me—“What do you have planned for Mother’s Day weekend?” He laughed at me when I said, "Oh, we’re doing some family stuff, but I’ve got a sitter Saturday night for some much needed kid-free time.”
I guess that doesn’t put me in the running for "Mother of the Year," if I’m gloating about my exciting free time on Mother’s Day weekend.
Friday night we hit Chuck E. Cheese, and on Saturday, my oldest had a baseball game. But then I got to spend the afternoon getting a before having a kid-free dinner with friends. On Sunday, actually Mother’s Day, we had a fun family day planned.
But I thrived on Saturday's “me-time." I haven’t had a haircut in seven months, and we always go far too long between date nights. It was glorious to feel carefree and leave the responsibility behind for just a bit.
. And it’s especially tough to balance working, parenting, kids sports, housework, you name it. Ironically, it’s me that sets aside my own personal maintenance—even though my boys routinely get their hair cut every month, have never missed a medical appointment, and are on time to all of their activities and play dates. It’s usually me who takes a back seat.
Mother’s Day is like the reminder—"Hey you’re a good mom, you do everything for your family, but you need to take care of you too."
Sometimes I feel a little guilty when I need time to myself to do my favorite , go for a run, or have a drink with my friend. But in reality, that time to myself, it makes me a better mom.
Having some time to yourself gives you a chance to recharge your batteries, time to remember you are somebody other than a mom. In fact, don’t they always say that absence makes the heart grow fonder? It’s TRUE! I always come back refreshed, less stressed, and ready to deal with mommy issues. Especially when my adorable boys greet me at the door screaming, "Mommy!"
I may not be in the running for Mother of the Year for being thrilled about my kid-free time on Mother’s Day weekend, but I know I'm a better mom because I took some time for me.